So yesterday at 8:30am I got a phone call from the LO's social worker saying that our home care coordinator called in sick so they were canceling the visit with the LO's birth mom this morning..I'm like wh..wh..wh..what? I had no idea that there was even a visit scheduled..baby wasn't ready that's for sure! Then she says..oh maybe I forgot to call you. What the hell? BTW..I'm not a crazy planner, but I do like an idea of what I'm going to be doing so that I can make sure we are where we need to be or else I begin to get resentful. But geez..a little earlier notice would have been nice.
Visits with mom were canceled two weeks ago since she was incarcerated again..but they will be starting up again so LO will be taking her first trip to the county jail next week. I'm not quite sure that jail is good for 10 week olds, but..it's all about the momma!
I also found out that baby's daddy has gone to court and established paternity and now would like some visits..which brings up some issues in my mind because daddy doesn't have a job, a car, or a place to live. Dad is entitled to two visits a week, but who the hell knows where the they'll be at cuz coming to see her here is out..did I say that daddy is homeless? I did say I was willing to help facilitate some visits, which means that I will taking LO to see him (library?) and then hang out while he visits. But its all about the daddy!
So now once visits get going there will be a visit once week for mom, two visits a week for dad, and one visit a week for grandma. Visits for mom and dad will be happening during regular business hours and the social worker doesn't really want a mom and dad visit on the same day..I'm like when the hell am I supposed to work? But it's all about the birth parents!
And yes I'm frackin' bitter but this is my blog so just get over it! and don't be commenting about it being all about placement back with the birth parents cause I know what the goal is..I'm just being bitter!
I know that a perfect world, mommy and daddy will get their damn acts together and in a period of a few months get out of jail, find a job, get an apartment, and become stable so that LO can move back in with her birth parents, but come on..daddy already has three kids that don't live with him..oh wait that's cuz daddy doesn't have an place or a job. Mommy is a felon with severe mental health issues..When does CPS say NO, enough! We've found a place for your LO and you can still be involved with her life, since its a family member..but you have lost your right to decide her future! When is it about the Little One?
I have to wonder if this is why we have so many kids in the foster care system. The goal of CPS is placement back into the biological parents home..but if there are so many negatives how can you get to the positive? And when you repeatedly pull a child from their biological parents and place them in foster care homes when do you say enough? If a child is removed more then twice do you say enough? And what help are we giving these parents before, during and after replacement? When do we as a society that wants productive citizens say ENOUGH?